What are the qualities that you value in a relationship? Honesty, humor, education, political affiliation, social views, attractiveness, etc? You may want to write these down and include why these qualities are important to you. What are the qualities that you want to bring into a relationship? Note these by writing them down and comparing these qualities to the qualities you want a partner to bring into a relationship. Are they similar? Do you see any patterns? When you look at your past relationships what was the role of the qualities you valued and how were they reflected in the relationship? How did these impact the relationship? What have you learned and how does this impact future relationships for you?